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Being Your Own Prince Or Princess Charming.

I have a confession to make.

I’ve been keeping super up to date with Love Island and I’m friggin loving it!

I love the whole Siannise and Luke dynamic – she’s the Princess and him her Prince Charming and it’s all super romantic and dreamy and idealistic.

It would be lovely if the world actually worked like that!

The truth is though, that there is no Prince for any girl out there. There isn’t even a Princess for any man out there – not in the fantasy sense at least. The reality is that as perfect as a man can try to be for his lady, and a lady be for his man, they will never, ever be quite that perfect because well, we’re human after all, and most of the time they will be a fairly far stretch away from those ideals.

I probably sound bitter and well, maybe I am a little. I used to be incredibly naive, believe in that sort of love, be ridiculously hopelessly romantic and idealistic. That was for the first 3 years of my “relationship” – I felt like I was floating, living in a dream bubble. I loved how he’d lift me up and spin me around, all the roses on Valentines day, the excitement he’d have when he’d talk to his friends about me. He could barely do any wrong.

But, he could. And did.

I just didn’t see those things quite as well as I saw the “love” – until he left me really quite suddenly!

We got back together a little after, but it was truly a lesson learnt. I genuinely used to cry from happiness when I’d see him, realising how insanely lucky I was to genuinely be living the life of my dreams, something to be envied. Now, it’s been a good couple of years since I cried from happiness! He and I have snuffed out my idealism quite a bit since then and I am far more realistic about everything now.

That need for a Prince Charming and for you to play the role of Princess, or that need for a Princess where you play the role of Prince Charming, is incredibly unhealthy. All of those Disney films and traditional gender roles are romanticised and fed to as being the ideal standard for our future partner for years and years growing up. But, boys and girls, you won’t ever find your Prince Charming or Princess in somebody else. Because our vision of that role is somebody perfect in our eyes, which absolutely cannot exist in a human being, because humans are fundamentally imperfect. More than that, everyone’s idea of perfect is unique to them – no two versions will match exactly. That’s not to say you won’t love or accept them as they are and see them as perfect in your own eyes, but regardless, they still will never 100% live up to your dream image of a partner – not for an entire lifetime with each other anyways! It is unfair to expect one human to fulfil every role of your desires perfectly – the perfect lover, perfect lifelong travel companion, the best chef, the best father/mother to your children, successful career man/woman, perfect housewife/husband/butler, the perfect personal shopper, perfect house cleaner, perfect personal entertainer, the best babysitter etc etc etc.

These expectations are not only unhealthy, but are entirely unrealistic. 

If you do truly want to “find” and experience that sense of fantasy for your lifetime, you’re going to have to find those roles within yourself.

Here’s what I mean.

You want to see the excitement on the face of the man of your dreams when he sees you in that brand new lingerie set on Valentines day that you carefully picked out?

Instead focus on buying what you genuinely feel beautiful in, regardless of what your partner may or not think, and treat yourself to a set of lingerie that makes you feel amazing, with the only expectations being that you look in the mirror and feel beautiful. You don’t need somebody else to think the same thing as you in order for you to believe it with all your heart. You don’t need a man to confirm that you look good, or sexy, or beautiful, or stunning, EVER. You just need to believe in the value of your own opinion, because you are unique and your opinions are unique to you – which is what makes you wonderful in the first place! How incredibly dull and pointless would the world be if we all thought identically to one another?

The other point is that, although I’m sure your partner would believe you look gorgeous in your new set of lingerie, he might not be the type of person to comment, or to act on that. Everybody is different and the main message here is that you can be your own Prince Charming. You want your man to be gobsmacked at you in your new lingerie set? Girl – YOU be gobsmacked at you in your new lingerie set! Look, you get to play the role of being the gorgeous Princess, AND you get to fulfil the role of the one that is amazed by how said Princess looks. How neat is that? Whoever said women wouldn’t rule the world someday?!

But really, men can do this too.

You want to come home to a daily cuppa and a “How was your day?” by your beautiful lady?

Instead, focus on providing for yourself what you genuinely want as your reward after a long day at work, regardless of what your partner may or may not provide, and treat yourself to a beverage made exactly how you like it and the wind-down activity of your choosing, with the only expectation being that you feel truly cared for when you come home. You don’t need somebody else to be on the same page as you in terms of your needs in order for you to deserve them. You don’t need a lady to make you feel that your efforts are valued. Again, you just need to believe in the value of your own opinion.

And again, I’m sure your partner does appreciate your hard work for the day, but it might not always be her first instinct to offer a drink or to ask about your day, because everybody is different, but you can play that role for yourself! You want your lady to show that she cares about your efforts for the day? You show yourself that you care about your efforts for the day! Getting to play the role of Prince Charming and the role of the one who takes care of Prince Charming is a very good position to be in.

It would be lovely if our partners would always be on the ball with fulfilling our expectations – the different things we feel we deserve from a partner. The truth is that nobody will ever be able to do that perfectly – not one person, unless they’re literally just following orders and aren’t really living life how they want to! It isn’t something worth getting down about though. Even if your partner’s unwillingness to provide what you want is a deal breaker, that still shouldn’t be as big of an issue as it has become for a lot of people.

Other humans do not exist purely to fill in the gaps in our lives that we aren’t willing to fill ourselves. They were born purposeless and create their own purpose throughout their life. Their only innate “purpose” should be to live their life however they wish to. A healthy relationship should comprise of two, fully developed, fully independent human beings, and anything they do for each other should be seen as additional, unnecessary treats on top of the treats we already provide for ourselves! The cherries on top of the cakes.

Of course, all of this is easier said than done. Self-development is very difficult, as is rewiring a brain that’s been conditioned a certain way for as long as you’ve lived. The main takeaway should be that self-love is crucial to living that fantasy, idealistic life, and relationships should be based not on what somebody else can do or provide for you, but on what you both genuinely want to provide for each. There’s a massive difference between the Scenarios A and B below:

Scenario A:
Person 1: Why did you disappoint me by not buying me something really beautiful for Valentines Day, like a beautiful necklace, when that’s what I expect and deserve?

Person 2: Okay, I’ll go out and get you what you want because you want it and I want to make you happy 🙂

Scenario B:
Person 1: I really want a beautiful necklace for Valentines day because I feel that will make me feel special and like a Princess, so I will go out and treat myself to a beautiful necklace!

Person 2: I love your new beautiful necklace, I got you some fancy chocolates for Valentines day that I thought looked really nice!

It’s all too easy to feel that in scenario A, the man is doing the right thing by making the lady happy, but although it is a kind gesture, it isn’t his responsibility to purchase items for another person simply because they want them, no matter what day of the year it is. It isn’t that the woman doesn’t deserve the item, but simply that it’s his choice to make his mind up about what he thinks would or would not make a suitable gift. He isn’t going to be thinking the same way as the lady, and his way of thinking isn’t wrong or less good. Sometimes we will find men who are on the same wavelength in these ways and who will on their own accord coincidently think to buy exactly what the lady was hoping for, or perhaps men who will ask the lady what she would like and who prefer to gift in this way, but most men will be thinking differently.

Communication really is key – you need to explicitly lay down each others expectations openly – even if you think you don’t have expectations, there are probably times you may become resentful or slightly disappointed by your partner – which is due to expectations. Having needs and wants are okay, as long as you are happy to and capable of providing those things for yourself in your life, and that your partner is genuinely happy to provide the expectations that are non – negotiable for you in your relationship dynamic.

If they’re not genuinely happy to provide those things, then you both are simply incompatible in that sort of a relationship. Have some flexibility!

Storm

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Lush Rose Bombshell Bath Bomb Review.

Hey guys! Again, I’m sorry for the late review! I’ve been stashing this bath bomb away since my trip to Berlin in February of this year.

Again, this bath bomb become very damp while in my storage, and became somewhat… Warped? It still smelled fine and the only discolouration on the bath bomb was due to ink from its blue paper bag transferring onto it. Regardless, I made sure to use it ASAP after noticing! This will however have affected the performance of this bath bomb, so keep that in mind whilst reading this review.

Also, I realise that it would be a good idea to swish around the bath water and take some photos of the colour that it turns overall, which I will make sure to do in the future!

I hope you enjoy!


Rose Bombshell Bath Bomb Review:

Rating: 4/5*

Cons:

There are rose petals within this bath bomb, that I was completely unaware about beforehand. I don’t know if they are like this if you use the bath bomb straight after purchasing it while it is still very fresh, but the rose petals for me were very dark brown, dead and honestly, kinda gross. I didn’t like them being in my bath with me at all honestly, and took them out pretty much as soon as I got in. If you don’t like the idea of old bits of flowers floating around your bath tub then perhaps it would be best to give another bath bomb a try!

This was an exclusive bath bomb from from the Valentines day collection early on in this year. This bath bomb is not available all year, which means it’s quite difficult to get your hands on!

The scent of Rose Bombshell is very light, sweet, clean, powdery and floral. If you’re not a big fan of typically feminine scents, you probably won’t like how this one smells.

The scent is also quite strong, so you can’t really get away with taking a bath with this bath bomb if you don’t like the scent very much.

Rose Bombshell turns the bath water a delicious raspberry, bubblegum, summer fruits pink colour. Although I loved my bath water being this shade of pink, I know that a lot of people absolutely hate the colour and find it obnoxious, so steer clear of Rose Bombshell if you’re one of these people!

My bath bomb sank to the bottom of the bath tub straight away and didn’t create much surface bath art, however, this is likely due to me storing the bath bomb for a long time and it becoming damp. I have however read that more and more of Lush’s bath bombs have been performing this way lately, so it could be Lush’s problem that it performed this way for me. Regardless, if you like a really good show in your bath, I’d steer clear of Rose Bombshell if it is released in the future!


Pros:

I personally really like the colour that Rose Bombshell turned my bath water. The colour reminded me a lot of the colour of Robinson’s Summer Fruits Fruit & Barley – a sort of translucent bubblegum, raspberry pink colour. It’s one of the best coloured baths I’ve ever bathed in, and would 100% repurchase this bath bomb just for that bath water colour!

The bath bomb made the bath water feel quite moisturising, without being oily or greasy at all.

I also really enjoyed the scent of Rose Bombshell, and it made the bathroom smell really good for hours and hours after using the bath bomb!

The appearance of this bath bomb is really cute (although my photos definitely do not do it justice!) It’s a spherical pink bath bomb with cute rose patterns on the top of it. Absolutely adorable!

Again, this was a Valentine’s day exclusive, and I think this would definitely make for a romantic bath 🙂


Overall Conclusion:

Overall, I really enjoyed this bath bomb! It was super cute, and I like me a super cute bath 🙂 If you’re not the sort of person who enjoys embracing your feminine side, you probably won’t be so keen on it. I however love embracing my girly princess side every once in a while!

Overall, I rate Rose Bombshell Bath Bomb a 4/5* rating. I know it’s silly, but those damn rose petals really put me off, but without them the bath water was fairly simple and its properties weren’t all that amazing. Based on the colour alone though, I’d definitely give Rose Bombshell a 5 star rating!

I’d definitely recommend grabbing one of these bath bombs should Lush release them again at some point (if you enjoy girly baths!) 🙂

– Storm

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Lush Rose Jam Bubbleroon Review

Hey guys!

I received this Lush product as part of a gift from my partner for my birthday last October, and decided to finally use it for Valentines day before it went bad! I hope you enjoy my review 🙂


Rose Jam Bubbleroon:

Rating: 5/5*

Cons:

 The scent of this bubbleroon is NOT exactly the same as the scent of the Rose Jam shower gel. When in the bath, the scent of this bubbleroon has quite an apparent tangy citrus note to it, which is far more subdued in the shower gel. The ingredients do differ quite a bit between the two products. For example, the shower gel contains vanilla pod infusion as its second top ingredient, giving the shower gel a very sweet aroma throughout use. The bubbleroon however does not even contain any vanilla whatsoever. The shower gel also contains Gogi berry juice, whereas the bubbleroon does not. The difference isn’t extremely major, but it is noticeable when the product is in the bath. Just don’t expect the scent to be EXACTLY the same as Rose Jam shower gel, and instead expect a version of Rose Jam that has a little less sweetness and a little more of a kick to it.

Not only is the scent of this product different to Rose Jam shower gel, I think it is also less nice in my opinion!

I needed to use the entire bubbleroon in one go to get the amount of bubbles I like when I take a bubble bath. Honestly, I forgot to put the bubbleroon under the tap until my bath was already almost full, so I don’t think it had as much of a chance to bubble up as my bubble bars from Lush usually do! None the less, I was surprised I had to use the entire product to get a nice bubbly bath.

After using a bubble bar from Lush, and many times after using a bath bomb too, I find I have to rinse off in the shower afterwards in order to feel completely clean. This bubbleroon was no different, and that additional step can be a little tedious when you’ve already been in the bath for 1-2 hours!


Pros:

This bubbleroon looks so adorable! It is the sweetest bubble bar I’ve ever used! It is a beautiful macaroon style with a gorgeous glittery rose design on the top of it! As cute as a button 🙂

This bubbleroon is really moisturising. All of that cocoa butter frosting in the center, along with all the oils they add to the bubbleroon, produce a lovely, moisturising bath. Highly recommend!

The scent, although not as nice as the Rose Jam shower gel, was still alright in the bath. Nothing incredibly amazing, but it was alright.

Out of the bath, this bubbleroon smells amazing!

The entire experience with this bubbleroon is really feminine – a gorgeous rose macaroon style bubble bar that produces a fluffy bubbly girly scented pink bath! I used mine on Valentines day and it suited the mood of the day absolutely brilliantly. It really made me feel more feminine than usual and is definitely a romantic bubbleroon too!

The bath water produced from this bubbleroon will be a rosey pinky red colour, which for some reason reminded me of the colour of pomegranate juice! It is definitely more of a pinky red than a reddish pink, if that makes any sense at all. Either way, I thought the colour was absolutely gorgeous!

The bubbles this bubbleroon produce make the bath extra relaxing. The bubbles themselves are fluffy and fill the entire bath tub (at least if you have bath jets and use them like I did.)

The whole concept and scent and absolutely everything about this bubbleroon made me feel super pampered and lovely!


Overall Conclusion:

Overall, I really enjoyed this bubbleroon. It is an absolutely amazing product, and the only real improvements I could suggest for it would be for it to be made bigger and for its scent to be made a little closer to the shower gel’s.

I’m going to rate this bubbleroon… Hmm, this is actually difficult. It is either a 4 or 5/5* rating. I love how moisturising it is, and the whole pamperesque experience of using this bubbleroon. It is just the scent that makes me think perhaps the product is more of a 4* than a 5*. I’m going to give it a 5/5* rating, because although the scent in the bath wasn’t great, the positive aspects of this bubbleroon far outweigh that factor.

I hope you enjoyed my review! I HIGHLY recommend trying this bubbleroon or gifting one to a loved one. It is lovely!

– Storm

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30 Blog posts I want to write.

  1. How I’m doing on my Astrophysics course.
  2. How I’m changing up my appearance.
  3. My visit to Rome.
  4. My visit to Paris.
  5. My visit to Kas.
  6. My visit to Berlin.
  7. My visit to Glasgow.
  8. What life where I live is like – London.
  9. Life in Bulgaria.
  10. Dealing with metal health crap.
  11. My drive through Europe.
  12. MORE LUSH REVIEWS on every product I have used up!
  13. How I’m doing with my Birthday goals.
  14. Why Astrobiology and Astronomy resonate with me.
  15. How Science has always been what I’ve been best at.
  16. A post about my hobbies.
  17. The story of me and my partner.
  18. My travel dreams and wanting to relocate.
  19. Get ready with me – blog style.
  20. My entire Lush collection and some background on my Lush items.
  21. Why veganism.
  22. If I was limited in the number of places I could visit, where would I choose to go?
  23. My trip to the opticians – again.
  24. Best ways I have found to use FUN bars from Lush.
  25. How I use Lush Solid Conditioners.
  26. How I use Dusting Powders from Lush.
  27. Tattoos, piercings etc.
  28. Outfits.
  29. Keeping healthy.
  30. Why I love Lush.
    That’s all I can think of for now that I would like to post about!

    – Storm