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Being Your Own Prince Or Princess Charming.

I have a confession to make.

I’ve been keeping super up to date with Love Island and I’m friggin loving it!

I love the whole Siannise and Luke dynamic – she’s the Princess and him her Prince Charming and it’s all super romantic and dreamy and idealistic.

It would be lovely if the world actually worked like that!

The truth is though, that there is no Prince for any girl out there. There isn’t even a Princess for any man out there – not in the fantasy sense at least. The reality is that as perfect as a man can try to be for his lady, and a lady be for his man, they will never, ever be quite that perfect because well, we’re human after all, and most of the time they will be a fairly far stretch away from those ideals.

I probably sound bitter and well, maybe I am a little. I used to be incredibly naive, believe in that sort of love, be ridiculously hopelessly romantic and idealistic. That was for the first 3 years of my “relationship” – I felt like I was floating, living in a dream bubble. I loved how he’d lift me up and spin me around, all the roses on Valentines day, the excitement he’d have when he’d talk to his friends about me. He could barely do any wrong.

But, he could. And did.

I just didn’t see those things quite as well as I saw the “love” – until he left me really quite suddenly!

We got back together a little after, but it was truly a lesson learnt. I genuinely used to cry from happiness when I’d see him, realising how insanely lucky I was to genuinely be living the life of my dreams, something to be envied. Now, it’s been a good couple of years since I cried from happiness! He and I have snuffed out my idealism quite a bit since then and I am far more realistic about everything now.

That need for a Prince Charming and for you to play the role of Princess, or that need for a Princess where you play the role of Prince Charming, is incredibly unhealthy. All of those Disney films and traditional gender roles are romanticised and fed to as being the ideal standard for our future partner for years and years growing up. But, boys and girls, you won’t ever find your Prince Charming or Princess in somebody else. Because our vision of that role is somebody perfect in our eyes, which absolutely cannot exist in a human being, because humans are fundamentally imperfect. More than that, everyone’s idea of perfect is unique to them – no two versions will match exactly. That’s not to say you won’t love or accept them as they are and see them as perfect in your own eyes, but regardless, they still will never 100% live up to your dream image of a partner – not for an entire lifetime with each other anyways! It is unfair to expect one human to fulfil every role of your desires perfectly – the perfect lover, perfect lifelong travel companion, the best chef, the best father/mother to your children, successful career man/woman, perfect housewife/husband/butler, the perfect personal shopper, perfect house cleaner, perfect personal entertainer, the best babysitter etc etc etc.

These expectations are not only unhealthy, but are entirely unrealistic. 

If you do truly want to “find” and experience that sense of fantasy for your lifetime, you’re going to have to find those roles within yourself.

Here’s what I mean.

You want to see the excitement on the face of the man of your dreams when he sees you in that brand new lingerie set on Valentines day that you carefully picked out?

Instead focus on buying what you genuinely feel beautiful in, regardless of what your partner may or not think, and treat yourself to a set of lingerie that makes you feel amazing, with the only expectations being that you look in the mirror and feel beautiful. You don’t need somebody else to think the same thing as you in order for you to believe it with all your heart. You don’t need a man to confirm that you look good, or sexy, or beautiful, or stunning, EVER. You just need to believe in the value of your own opinion, because you are unique and your opinions are unique to you – which is what makes you wonderful in the first place! How incredibly dull and pointless would the world be if we all thought identically to one another?

The other point is that, although I’m sure your partner would believe you look gorgeous in your new set of lingerie, he might not be the type of person to comment, or to act on that. Everybody is different and the main message here is that you can be your own Prince Charming. You want your man to be gobsmacked at you in your new lingerie set? Girl – YOU be gobsmacked at you in your new lingerie set! Look, you get to play the role of being the gorgeous Princess, AND you get to fulfil the role of the one that is amazed by how said Princess looks. How neat is that? Whoever said women wouldn’t rule the world someday?!

But really, men can do this too.

You want to come home to a daily cuppa and a “How was your day?” by your beautiful lady?

Instead, focus on providing for yourself what you genuinely want as your reward after a long day at work, regardless of what your partner may or may not provide, and treat yourself to a beverage made exactly how you like it and the wind-down activity of your choosing, with the only expectation being that you feel truly cared for when you come home. You don’t need somebody else to be on the same page as you in terms of your needs in order for you to deserve them. You don’t need a lady to make you feel that your efforts are valued. Again, you just need to believe in the value of your own opinion.

And again, I’m sure your partner does appreciate your hard work for the day, but it might not always be her first instinct to offer a drink or to ask about your day, because everybody is different, but you can play that role for yourself! You want your lady to show that she cares about your efforts for the day? You show yourself that you care about your efforts for the day! Getting to play the role of Prince Charming and the role of the one who takes care of Prince Charming is a very good position to be in.

It would be lovely if our partners would always be on the ball with fulfilling our expectations – the different things we feel we deserve from a partner. The truth is that nobody will ever be able to do that perfectly – not one person, unless they’re literally just following orders and aren’t really living life how they want to! It isn’t something worth getting down about though. Even if your partner’s unwillingness to provide what you want is a deal breaker, that still shouldn’t be as big of an issue as it has become for a lot of people.

Other humans do not exist purely to fill in the gaps in our lives that we aren’t willing to fill ourselves. They were born purposeless and create their own purpose throughout their life. Their only innate “purpose” should be to live their life however they wish to. A healthy relationship should comprise of two, fully developed, fully independent human beings, and anything they do for each other should be seen as additional, unnecessary treats on top of the treats we already provide for ourselves! The cherries on top of the cakes.

Of course, all of this is easier said than done. Self-development is very difficult, as is rewiring a brain that’s been conditioned a certain way for as long as you’ve lived. The main takeaway should be that self-love is crucial to living that fantasy, idealistic life, and relationships should be based not on what somebody else can do or provide for you, but on what you both genuinely want to provide for each. There’s a massive difference between the Scenarios A and B below:

Scenario A:
Person 1: Why did you disappoint me by not buying me something really beautiful for Valentines Day, like a beautiful necklace, when that’s what I expect and deserve?

Person 2: Okay, I’ll go out and get you what you want because you want it and I want to make you happy 🙂

Scenario B:
Person 1: I really want a beautiful necklace for Valentines day because I feel that will make me feel special and like a Princess, so I will go out and treat myself to a beautiful necklace!

Person 2: I love your new beautiful necklace, I got you some fancy chocolates for Valentines day that I thought looked really nice!

It’s all too easy to feel that in scenario A, the man is doing the right thing by making the lady happy, but although it is a kind gesture, it isn’t his responsibility to purchase items for another person simply because they want them, no matter what day of the year it is. It isn’t that the woman doesn’t deserve the item, but simply that it’s his choice to make his mind up about what he thinks would or would not make a suitable gift. He isn’t going to be thinking the same way as the lady, and his way of thinking isn’t wrong or less good. Sometimes we will find men who are on the same wavelength in these ways and who will on their own accord coincidently think to buy exactly what the lady was hoping for, or perhaps men who will ask the lady what she would like and who prefer to gift in this way, but most men will be thinking differently.

Communication really is key – you need to explicitly lay down each others expectations openly – even if you think you don’t have expectations, there are probably times you may become resentful or slightly disappointed by your partner – which is due to expectations. Having needs and wants are okay, as long as you are happy to and capable of providing those things for yourself in your life, and that your partner is genuinely happy to provide the expectations that are non – negotiable for you in your relationship dynamic.

If they’re not genuinely happy to provide those things, then you both are simply incompatible in that sort of a relationship. Have some flexibility!

Storm

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What I Hate / Love About The Colder Seasons.

Okay so I’m going to be real honest with you guys here. I’m happy for you all that you’re so excited for Autumn – really, I am. But for me? I hate the bringing of the colder months, with a passion. I don’t just dislike the colder months, they genuinely make me feel incredibly depressed. But hey ho, what can you do eh?

To get some of my hatred for the colder seasons off my chest, I decided to write some things I hate about them, and then some things I love about them to leave me feeling a bit more positive about what’s to come.


What I Hate About The Colder Seasons:

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  1. Everything starts to die and/or hibernate and hide away. All forms of life find the cold so difficult to actually be present in, that they feel the need to reserve their energy to simply stay warm, and stop leaving their homes to be outdoors. I personally hate going outside when it’s cold – Celsius’ in the 20s is my jam and I absolutely adore the warmth of the sun on my bare skin. Sorry guys, I really do hate the cold and being too uncomfortable to just go outside and get some fresh air.

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  2. When so many of the same people who scream “it’s too hot, I miss Winter!” during the Summer, are the people saying “it’s too damn cold, I miss the Summer” during Winter… Come on guys, be decisive. I’m 100% a Summer lover, and will ALWAYS despise the cold.

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  3. Not really being able to wear body-confident, flattering clothing. I only recently became sort-of happy with how my body looks, and was really embracing wearing high-waisted shorts and little tops. Now I’m just going to be back to hiding my body away in bulky clothing!

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  4. IT’S JUST TOO DAMN COLD TO EVER BE COMFORTABLE. You either have to wear a billion layers and be uncomfortable from having so many items of clothing rubbing against your body, or, you have to be really cold and get to wear a more comfortable amount of clothing. Even with loads of layers on, I still end up being too cold during the Winter months – especially my legs!

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  5. My Birthday. I turn 24 on October 17th, and let me tell you, it’s coming at me way too quickly. I’m at terms with my aging, but I just wish I had a little longer to achieve my yearly goals before I get run over by the continuous cycle of birthdays.

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  6. Buying Christmas presents. I actually love buying people gifts, but what I don’t like is buying things that the person I give them to probably won’t end up liking all that much. Being an adult, most of the people within my social life are also adults, and already have the funds to purchase whatever it is they desire in life. Finding something for them that they both haven’t already bought for themselves, and that they genuinely would adore, is really flipping difficult.

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  7. How rubbish it looks outside during the colder months. No sunshine, just grey and white clouds filling the skies and looming over everybody. There’s not much to look at either, I mean, it’s all dead. Yeah so the dying leaves on trees turn pretty colours, but they’re still DEAD. I much rather see nice and healthy ALIVE leaves!

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  8. The weather, oh God the weather. Rain galore, proudly drenching all my billions of bulky layers and my once-perfect makeup in it’s wake. Icy winds, so cold that they make my cheeks burn and make my nose run. Add the two together, and you get inverted, spiky umbrellas to have to deal with. I hate the weather we get during the colder seasons, it’s the absolute worst.

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  9. THAT IT NEVER SEEMS TO END… Here in good ol’ London, the colder seasons seem to last more like 3.67 seasons rather than their appointed 2. Yep, according to Accuweather, London averages out at only 30 days a year where the high temperature is 22 degrees Celcius. It just drags on and on and on, and when it finally gets warm it’s just a little sprint that lasts for a couple weeks, then cold again for ages before the next warm sprint, or “heat waves” as most Brits like to call it. That’s how cold it always is here, we actually have a dramatic name for when it feels warm in England.

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  10. FOMO with Lush products, or ‘fear of missing out’. Lush brings out tons of new products for Halloween, Christmas and Valentine’s Day, and also add a bunch of new ones to their permanent line after the Lush Summit which occurs every September. This also means a whole bunch of discons just weeks beforehand, and will also mean that more seasonal products will begin appearing in the Lush Kitchen (which won’t generally happen during the rest of the year.) Basically, this means that I personally feel a LOT of pressure to purchase many, many Lush products during the colder months, in fear that I will miss out on said products if I do not do so! This then leads to loss of a lot of money, tons of products to have to find a place to stash in my little flat, and excess of products that turn less and less fresh everyday. I STILL have SO MANY products in my stash, mostly purchased during the Boxing Day sale last year. They’re no longer as fresh as they were back then and, lo and behold, Halloween and Christmas products have already been released once again in Lush.

Things I Love About The Colder Seasons:

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  1. I do love how cozy I can be during the colder seasons. I find it difficult to drink hot drinks, soups, stews and heavy meals when it is warm in England, so it’s really nice to be able to indulge in those things again. I also don’t cozy up to my partner so much in the warmer months because of how sticky and uncomfortable that can get, so it will be lovely to be able to do that again! + nice, hot baths…

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  2. Okay so, although I do generally prefer Summertime clothing, I am really excited to break in some of my new clothing items that I bought from Primark recently! I have a gorgeous pair of high waited, black skinny jeans that I’m really looking forward to wearing, and am also looking forward to getting to wear all my new shirts, hoodies, jumpers and hats more! I have a few new pairs of shoes made from waterproof material that I’m also looking forward to getting more use out of!

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  3. Although there’s nothing I prefer than being outdoors, I’m a pretty lazy lady. When it’s too cold to go outside and I pretty much HAVE to spend my spare time indoors, it’s nice to allow myself to read, go on my laptop, watch T.V. etc without feeling too much guilt!

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  4. Everyone being so happy on Christmas, and all at the same time. Unless they don’t celebrate it of course, but most people here do! It’s such a nice and cheerful day, everything just feels so positive and happy on Christmas, and it is a day I’m looking forward to 🙂

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  5. The start of a new term of education. I will be attending University toward the end of September, and the start of a new term is always the most exciting and least stressful time I find (although, I do still find it pretty stressful at this time of year!) Everything is new again – new stationary, new teachers, new classes, new learning material, a new opportunity to make new friends and to attend new societies… It’s just all fresh and fun(ner) at this time of year!

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  6. The colder months are the months where almost all of my family members’ Birthdays fall within. We kick off with my mother’s on 20th September, then mine on 17th October, then my younger brother’s and sister’s on the 12th November, then my older brother’s on 1st December, and then my eldest sister’s on 16th December. Phew! Add in the start of a new term at Uni, Halloween, Firework’s night, Christmas (+Christmas Eve and Boxing Day,) New Years Day and Valentines Day, and we have an extremely eventful couple of seasons this time of year!

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  7. I guess the cold, drab months help me to appreciate the warmer ones even more than I already would do, right?

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  8. Makeup not sweating off of my face and / or becoming oily so quickly! I HATE how sticky my face gets when it’s warm, so I am really looking forward to my face staying a bit more matte in the colder seasons.

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  9. All the beautiful things specific to the colder months – such as pumpkin lanterns being out on Halloween, all the Bonfires and fireworks for Guy Fawkes Night, Christmas lights lighting up every highstreet, Winter Wonderland in Hyde Park, peeping through people’s windows to see a glorious Christmas tree, fireworks on New Years… All very beautiful!

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  10. Last but not least, not really needing to shave. I hate the process of shaving my legs with a passion. To be able to get away with NOT having shaved legs the majority of the time will be pretty nice actually.

 

That’s it from me for now!
– Storm

 

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One Thing I HATE About Hot Days Is…

… I always feel panicked to make the most of them! I don’t know if anyone else gets this – most people I know find 32 degree Celsius days in England to be horrid, and just want to stay indoors and wish the hot weather and sunshine away. They get headaches, nausea, sweaty, dizziness and just generally don’t fare too well in the heat.

Me?

I live for these days. I’m constantly waiting for the temperature to hit 22 degrees or more where I live – which only occurs for a total of less than 7 days a year here I’m sure! Winter is an absolute nightmare for me. I HATE the cold with a passion. You hear so many people say in Winter that they can’t wait for the weather to be warm again, but those same people are usually the ones screaming “IT’S TOO HOT!!!” on days like these. Not me. To me, this is bliss. I’m not saying the hotter it is, the better – but I do really enjoy it being very warm.

So I find myself today, on the hottest day that I will feel all year – and probably the hottest day I will feel until another year has passed, and I don’t know what to do with myself. I’ve made no plans, I’m just sitting here! I don’t even know what it is that I want to do in this heat. Honestly, I think it is just it being warm that makes me happy – not what I’m doing when it is warm. I just hate the feeling that it is only going to be a pleasant temperature for me for a limited amount of time, before it’s back being too cold for me again. I wish I lived somewhere warmer than here – like in Queensland Australia or something! Knowing the weather is pretty much always going to be nice would be absolute freedom for me!

I find hot temperature to be freeing – when it is cold, I find myself trapped indoors because of how uncomfortable it is to be outdoors. I wasn’t always so hateful toward cold weather. When I was a teenager, I’d go out in the snow wearing a skirt and converse, as though it wasn’t a big deal at all. One Winter whilst living in Bulgaria, I caught hypothermia. My extremities became extremely painful and well, I think since then I’ve become more sensitive to the cold. Sometimes I feel like I feel the cold twice as strong, and feel warm temperature only half as strongly as most people I know feel it. I’m sure this isn’t fully true, but hypothermia can cause people to become more sensitive to the cold afterwards, so I don’t think it is entirely untrue of a statement either.

Anyways! For now, I think I’ll just enjoy the ability to have my back doors (that lead to my bedroom) wide open, whilst sitting in bed on my laptop and enjoying the heat 🙂 I’ll keep looking forward to a future where I live somewhere warmer, where I never feel rushed to enjoy the sunshine and heat before it disappears!

– Storm

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What being an INFJ means to me + rant.

Hey! I’ve been thinking about my personality type, and wanted to write about what it means to me to be an INFJ. What I mean by this is… What are the things that set me apart from other types, in real life, day-to-day situations that are easy to relate to.



What being an INFJ means to me:

  1. I will feel personally hurt when silly, little casual comments are made against me. I just can’t shrug anything off. I won’t be able to truly think nothing of the comment, and I won’t be able to think that the person who made said comment wasn’t being a tad insensitive. I’m easily upset, easily offended, easily hurt – even by people who I’m not technically “friends” with. I think many people don’t realise that there are some really sensitive souls in this world. I know for sure that some people do realise, and this face just pisses them off more than anything. I find that many Thinking over Feeling personality types will be irked by the sensitivity of Feeling over Thinking types. But yeah, I’m a sensitive, delicate, sometimes rather pathetic little flower. I feel things very strongly, and am easily overwhelmed with an emotion.

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  2. I feel like an alien. I feel like I can’t relate to almost anyone, and the people I can relate to in many ways will still always have just as many contrasting beliefs. I find it incredibly hard to connect with people and make friends – in fact, at the age of 23 I would not consider that I have any “friends” in the strictest sense. I don’t “hang out” with anyone, or get invited out anywhere. I suppose my partner is my only friend, but I’m fine with that. I couldn’t handle socialising, day in and day out, with a group of people who just seem so… Hollow… I don’t know. Imagine if every human saw through 2 lenses, one main, dominant lens and one small, inferior lens. I feel like most people’s dominant lens is my inferior lens, and most people’s inferior lens is my dominant lens. I just don’t feel like I’m seeing the world the same way that the majority of people are. I feel sort of like a loner. Very alone.

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  3. I don’t get shallowness. I hate all this pop culture. I hate celebrity gossip. I hate drama. I hate the 9-5 everyday mundane routine of humans. I hate repetitiveness. I hate feeling like so many people are SHEEP. I hate people doing what is easy, and not using their brain and heart to decide what it is they truly WANT. I don’t like people ignoring very important, hard TRUTHS, and instead turning a blind eye.

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  4. Similar to the last one, but I don’t follow crowds. Why the hell would I? I’d much prefer to feel genuinely happy and blissful doing the things I enjoy. I love Lush to an extreme – something not uncommon at all, but definitely a genuine love rather than following a craze. Even if Lush were to become incredibly unpopular one day, or if the Body Shop were to instead become the new exciting cosmetics brand, I’d still be dedicated to my Lush. I’m a female studying for a degree in Astrophysics. I’d like to eventually be a researcher in the field of Astrobiology. I don’t think I need to even explain how this one isn’t following the crowd. I don’t care if people think my ideas are stupid. I just care that I’m doing what genuinely makes me happy in my life.

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  5. I can’t take relationships lightly. Every person I meet, I care about. Every person I SEE, I care about. I truly hope every homeless person I see on the street will be okay. I hope that all the randomers I see on my morning train will have a brilliant day. Again, it hurts me when people make sarcastic or slightly offensive comments toward me, because I generally hold too much respect to be able to be nasty to that same person. It is hard to feel like almost every single relationship is one way. I care too much.

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  6. There’s never enough time in the day. There is so much I want to do yet I spend so much time up in my mind, that I rarely do much physically in my day at all. I’m a thinker, a dreamer – and a doer too. I’m just far less of a doer than I am a thinker. I don’t generally like this fact about me though. It is seen as laziness – it truly isn’t. I don’t even realise how many hours I’ve spend in my thought bubbles until I randomly snap out, and realise that my actual day is already over.

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  7. I don’t see animals, or even plants really, as being of less value than humans. We are all alive, this life is the only one that any of us will ever live. Who is to say which life is more important? Of course, I eat plants. I am a vegan, and am doing the best I currently know how to do. I do aspire to be a fruitarian one day though. To me, death is death, and life is life. Simple as. In fact, if anything, I feel more toward an animal or plant life than I do a human life. Humans have so many ulterior motives, can be so cruel and selfish. Animals and plants are pure. They just live. I don’t know…

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  8. I am honest, quite possibly to a fault. I can’t keep surprises from my loved ones. If asked how I feel about a topic or what my opinion is about something, I will be completely honest. I don’t think anyone deserves to be led into believing something that just simply isn’t the truth. Who could be that cruel? I’m a very honest person.

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  9. I see beauty everywhere. I’d stare at a sunset for hours if I could. The sea is absolutely gorgeous, as are plants, hills, mountains. I love the universe I love the natural world, I love landscapes. Colours are so vibrant, I don’t know… I just love how the universe LOOKS, and I truly appreciate it. The same goes for any art form – music, dance… It is all so incredibly beautiful!

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  10. My mind is complicated. My thoughts are confusing, and do sometimes contradict one another. I’m logical, scientific, sensible, reasonable, wise, technical, clear. I’m also creative, artistic, sensitive, spiritual, idealistic, disconnected. My mind is a mixing pot of two different worlds. I find it hard to make decisions, because I sort of love almost everything. Making a decision of which career I wanted to pursue was one of the most difficult decisions I’ve made in my life. I decided that any interests that were more creative and less academic would be better pursued out of conventional education, because then I could grow in these areas as a unique, uninfluenced individual – which to me is what art is all about. With all of my academic interests, I just sort of smushed them all together, and found one subject that embodied them all – Astrobiology. Paleontology, biology, climatology, astronomy, geology, geography… It’s all in there, every single academic interest of mine. After doing this, the only things left behind were things that I had either integrated into other areas of my life in other ways – such as travel, or things that I have little or no interest in – like Politics… I chose Astronomy as my pathway into the field of Astrobiology, just because it seemed like the most vast and interesting subject that Astrobiology is made up of. I can’t, don’t and won’t settle on one idea if I am interested in many different ideas. This is also evident in the amount of different seasonings I use when I cook…

    That’s all for now! There’s 10 things that being an INFJ means to me. If you’re an INFJ, did you relate to any of these? If what ways did you/did you not? If you’re not an INFJ, what type are you, and what ways are you similar/different? Leave a comment below!



    Warning:
    RANT

     

    Also, I’d like to ask a favor of any readers who are interested in MBTI. If you have taken an MBTI personality test, please, for the love of God, take another. MBTI tests are NOT perfect, and will have blind spots for certain types of unique personalities. You absolutely cannot take one test result at face value, and just start investing your time researching that result. That is insane! You can’t go taking a man-made test, that absolutely will NOT be flawless (as personalities are so diverse and unique between each person, not everyone will perfectly fit into the same mould as another member of the same personality type..,) and just 100% have faith that the result you obtained is a solid FACT. The only fact you have obtained from taking that test is simply that THAT test provided you with THAT result. Take one test, then take another test on a completely different website – a test with different questions and entirely different mechanisms to reach a result. If you come out with the same result twice, through answering honestly, then chances are that you’re that personality type. Read it up and see if you relate to it. If not, then take a third, different test. Keep doing this until different tests have provided you with the same result!

    This is so, so, SO important. It almost angers me when I read that someone took a MBTI test, and straight away are like “Okay, I guess this is me then 😀 .” If you’re so convinced, get the same result in a different test too. What is there to lose? And if there is a CHANCE your result may come out differently in a different test then why wouldn’t you want to know what else you might be? My first result (taken on the typical 16personalities site I believe…) reckoned I was an ISFJ. So, what did I do with this result? I saved it, and then instantly took another test. INFJ. What did I do with this result? I saved it, and then took ANOTHER test instantly. INFJ/INTJ. What did I do with this result? I further researched the INFJ personality type, as I had received that result twice using 2 different tests. Considering there are 16 different possible outcomes, getting the same result in 2 different tests, when only having taken a few, means chances are that you’re this type. After researching the type, I related well, and have since had an MBTI enthusiast type me as an INFJ too.

    I’m sorry with rambling on, I just don’t like when people say they fit a personality profile because of ONE test result. I mean, claiming that a certain profile pretty much defines the inner functions of your ways of thinking and your behaviours is pretty huge, so at least make sure that what you’re claiming is reliable! Grrrrrrr. If you only can be bothered to take one test then at least take the humanmetrics test instead – that one seemed to be most reliable for me!

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40 Followers!

Hey everyone!

I just wanted to say a big thank you to every single one of you for following my blog. I have hit 40 followers!

That might not be a mahoosive number, but I am happy to say that I gained every single one of you guys as followers by writing what I enjoy to write about. My site is from the heart and is very genuine, so I know that all of you guys genuinely like to read what I like to write – which is fantastic!

Anyways, Justin Bieber started out with 40 followers on his Twitter on 28th September 2009, which grew to 500,000 followers by Nov 18th 2009! 40 followers is definitely a good start, and even if I were to stay at 40 followers, maybe that just means there are only 40 people with the same interests as me… Which is totally cool! Nothing wrong with being unusual 😉

LOVE YOU ALL AND THANK YOU AGAIN!!!

– Storm

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The weekend!

Finally, it’s the weekend! Now I can blog…

I’ve been waiting all week to just be able to write my heart out on my blog.

I love blogging. Just writing and writing about whatever it is that I feel like that day.

There’s so much I want to write about too. Places I’ve traveled to, get ready with me’s, fashion, astronomy, education, relationships, mbti, making a house a home… I want this blog to be like a little journal of my life and so far, it appears that my life is just Lush!!! I do love my Lush, but there’s a lot more to me than just that, believe it or not 😉

I have so many ideas and things that I want to write about… Once I truly get in the zone, I may never stop writing!

– Storm

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30 Blog posts I want to write.

  1. How I’m doing on my Astrophysics course.
  2. How I’m changing up my appearance.
  3. My visit to Rome.
  4. My visit to Paris.
  5. My visit to Kas.
  6. My visit to Berlin.
  7. My visit to Glasgow.
  8. What life where I live is like – London.
  9. Life in Bulgaria.
  10. Dealing with metal health crap.
  11. My drive through Europe.
  12. MORE LUSH REVIEWS on every product I have used up!
  13. How I’m doing with my Birthday goals.
  14. Why Astrobiology and Astronomy resonate with me.
  15. How Science has always been what I’ve been best at.
  16. A post about my hobbies.
  17. The story of me and my partner.
  18. My travel dreams and wanting to relocate.
  19. Get ready with me – blog style.
  20. My entire Lush collection and some background on my Lush items.
  21. Why veganism.
  22. If I was limited in the number of places I could visit, where would I choose to go?
  23. My trip to the opticians – again.
  24. Best ways I have found to use FUN bars from Lush.
  25. How I use Lush Solid Conditioners.
  26. How I use Dusting Powders from Lush.
  27. Tattoos, piercings etc.
  28. Outfits.
  29. Keeping healthy.
  30. Why I love Lush.
    That’s all I can think of for now that I would like to post about!

    – Storm

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Where am I from… And where do I belong?

Do you ever realize that… How can I put this into words…

Do you ever feel like you need to ESCAPE from something that is an integral part of your life, but realize that there may never be a time or a place where you can do this…? Where ANYONE can do this…?

Do you ever feel like you are just absolutely desperate to find something – you’re not quite sure what it is, but you feel like at some point in your life, you will find this place. This place where you feel perfectly at home, perfectly comfortable. And then you realize that that time, that place, might simply not exist…?

This is a post about that very feeling.


I don’t belong on this planet. Heck, I could very well not belong in this universe. My home is not a place that I know to exist – it only exists in my heart, my soul, my mind, my feelings. The place I come from, the place I belong, my home… Here is a description of my home universe, my home planet, my home continent, home country, hometown, the very point that I feel is “home”.

My home has no politics. No leaders, no different classes, no ways to rank one human’s importance in the world from another’s. My home has no one in control. No one controls anyone, but themselves. Nothing feels like a chore – everything that we do is a pleasure, because we don’t force ourselves or others to do anything that they do not want to do. Everyone has entire freedom over their life. Where I am from, life is eternal. We choose the life that we have, and we live it however we would like to.

The climate is beautiful and perfect, at all times. My home is never cold, never uncomfortably warm. The heat feels refreshing, comforting and happy – not in any way smothering. My home has no clouds, no fog, no snow. It doesn’t rain often but when it does, the rain is light, relaxing, pure. There is no artificial noise pollution, artificial light pollution or any toxic pollution of any kind where I’m from. 

The landscape is absolutely gorgeous. Incredibly beautiful sunsets and sunrises, mountains, hills, oceans, fields, beaches, forests… Absolutely stunning. The world where I’m from is EXTREMELY visual. Colours are so bright, everything looks so beautiful. All of the incredibly things to see in the world are completely organic, natural and healthy. Every individual appreciates the incredible beauty of these sights for what they truly are. No one lives indoors where I’m from. We live outside with the rest of nature, where we belong. Days are so, so, so long – nights are only a quarter of the length of daytime. The night sky is beautifully clear. All objects in space are easy and clear to see in amazing detail. Distance is never an issue – we simply need to close our eyes and think of the place we want to be, and we’ll be there. We don’t have to travel this way, but the option is there if we want to.

No one is cruel or unkind in my home. There is no violence, no danger, no hurt. There’s no anger in my home. No sadness, no guilt, no accidents, no mistakes. No distractions. No discomfort. No ailments. No pain, no physical issues. No one gets drained, exhausted, or has low energy.

My home has no system. No “way” that people are SUPPOSED to be living. There is no “normal”, no “average”. There is no routine, no goals, no planning for the future. Where I come from, work and money isn’t something that exists. There are no expectations from anyone. No one tries to compete to be better than everyone or anyone else.

Communication through the written word or through speech isn’t even expected or required. In my home, we communicate through glances, through knowing the person using our mind, through feelings and intuition, through emotion, through wisdom and intelligence. We can even understand and communicate just as easily with all forms of life.

Where I’m from, everything is purely and simply what it is. Nature never harms you and only heals your soul. All species actually love, respect and appreciate each other for what they uniquely are. Every single individual is loved, unconditionally. Every life is seen as precious and perfect by every single life form. No one fears bugs, sharks or any animal or plant where I am from. We are all connected to one another, and know that we have nothing to fear around nature. Everyone truly is unique there. No one copies ideas from one another because their own ideas are so valuable themselves. All life including humanoids, animals, bugs and plants are understood as having just as much value as one another. None are more dominant where I am from, and we are all valued just as equally.

Everyone is just so… Happy… True… Kind… Pure.




I know this place doesn’t exist. Or should I said, I know that LOGICALLY, this place doesn’t exist. I may never feel at home on this planet. I may never feel understood, as though I fit in, or truly content. And yet, although I know that logically this place cannot exist, my heart says otherwise. It almost feels like I’m constantly being called to and pulled toward this place. This place where I can finally feel at peace, as though a massive weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. Where I can finally feel deeply happy, free and without fear or judgement.

Even if this place cannot and doesn’t realistically exist, perhaps there is a place on this planet where I can feel MORE at home than I do where I am right now. It truly doesn’t have to be perfect. I can accept that many, many humans are douchebags, but surely there are people who are more like minded to me somewhere… A less artificial, more natural place than blooming London! I feel so trapped 😦

At least to live somewhere that is comfortably warm would be a very, very good start! A lot of people don’t care too much about the sort of temperatures their hometown has but wow, to me personally? I think that if I’m not taking anyone else into account (such as being close to family etc,) then the single most important aspect of feeling at “home” is probably how comfortable I am with the temperature!

When it is cold, I don’t even want to go outside. I hate being indoors all the time, but to me it is preferable than facing the cold the majority of the time… When it is cold it is also dark and dingy. I absolutely hate it – it is just miserable. I always get really unwell both physically and mentally in the wintertime too. When its too hot, I also don’t feel like doing anything and I feel incredibly uncomfortable and stressed out. But even THEN, that is a far more preferable scenario to it being cold! When it is just warm and lovely outside though, with the sun shining… 🙂 It is so blissful, it makes me so, so, so happy and feel so FREE. FREE to do what I want to do without being uncomfortable. Free to run around and explore outside, to engage in fun activities. I just love it! It makes me feel ALIVE!

I’m going to work on trying to find some places with the sorts of temperatures that I like 🙂

– Storm

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Lush Love You Mum Soap Review

Hello everyone! 🙂 So, this soap was released for Mother’s day this year, and I couldn’t help but grab myself one – it looked really nice! I hope you enjoy this review 🙂


Love You Mum Soap (100g)

Rating: 4/5*

Cons:

This soap is very exclusive, and I have only seen it released for Mother’s day this year. If you do happen to fine it online or in the Lush Kitchen, be warned! If it turns out that you LOVE it, you might have a hard time getting your hands on it in the future!

This soap isn’t moisturising, and I actually found it slightly drying on my hands if I’m honest – only very, very slightly though!

Some people say this soap smells like moth balls? If you’re afraid of that then you’d better not try this soap!


Pros:

I thought this soap was lovely. The colours on it are absolutely gorgeous – a design that consists of a beautiful blue colour and a lovely ruby red. Such a beautiful soap! Google it to see what I mean 😉

I absolutely love the scent. To me, it is a fresh, soapy, fruity floral… sort of… It smells to me a lot like cherries, almonds, fresh linen, flowers and soap, all mixed together haha! It smells really good, I’d 100% recommend it for its scent personally!

It works really well, and runs out in a nice way if that makes sense. It does break up into smaller pieces eventually, but only a few and they are really easy to mush up into your hands and use up. It’s a nice and easy soap! 🙂

This soap lathers up really well!

This soap is from Lush, is vegan, cruelty free, handmade… Worth a try!


Overall conclusion:

I loved this soap. It wasn’t perfect – but it was really nice. I’d rate this soap a 4/5* (a rating I seem to be giving out a lot recently…,) and the only reason it gets 4 stars rather than 5 is the fact that it isn’t very moisturing.

Highly recommend!

– Storm 🙂

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Lush Butterbear Bath Bomb Review

Hey guys!

Today is an extremely exciting review – I have lost my Lush bath bomb virginity (thanks to my amazing partner!) to the adorable Butterbear! I hope you enjoy this review 🙂 Sorry that the photos aren’t the best quality!


Butterbear Bath Bomb:

Rating: 5/5*

Cons:

SOME people might find that this bath bomb leaves their skin with a sort of greasy film on it, and they might not like that. If you don’t like feeling moisturised then well, Butterbear is definitely not the one for you!

The smell of Butterbear is very slightly artificial in scent – it has a sort of strong, perfumey tang to it. If you don’t like quite strong scents, this is not the one for you either!

Butterbear doesn’t really alter the colour of the bath water or create much of a show. If you want something super colourful and crazy, Butterbear will disappoint.


Pros:

Okay, so writing ANY cons for Butterbear was actually very difficult for me to do – I loved my little Butterbear! The first reason I think everyone should go out and buy themselves a Butterbear of their own is because he is just absolutely adorable! Like, the cutest Lush product I have ever used (by far!) Just the way this bath bomb looks is sure to put a smile on your face. So cute!

The smell is a very strong cocoa butter and vanilla scent. It smells slightly sickly but it is just so lovely. It also has this slighly perfumed aroma to it. I think he smells absolutely divine to be honest. Good enough to eat! Definitely one for those with a sweet tooth 😉

I received this as a gift, and it was the sweetest present! Even just grabbing one of these to cheer a friend up is a brilliant idea. These make fantastic gifts – trust me!

Butterbear is so moisturising – I felt incredibly soft after my long bath.

Butterbear softened the dead skin on my body, making it really easy to scrub off. I shower regularly and was surprised to see how much cleaner I was able to get just sponging my body over after soaking in a bath with Butterbear. If you really like to feel really clean, Butterbear is a must!

The bath was so nourishing that as well as my body, my hair and face also felt really moisturised after leaving the bath!

Once Butterbear has completely fizzed away, large droplets of melted butters were left behind on the surface of the bath water. It is nice to be able to see visually just how moisturising and luxurious your bath is!

Butterbear is vegan, all natural, handmade, is from the fantastic company Lush and is cruelty free.

I found Butterbear just so exciting to use, I really recommend giving him a go!


Overall Conclusion:

Overall, I LOVE BUTTERBEAR SO MUCH!!! I just want one in my Lush supplies at all times – he is so bloody cute!!! I love him!!!

So, I rate Butterbear a 5/5* rating, of course. Butterbear is simple and isn’t a miracle product from Lush, but for what a bath bomb is meant to do, Butterbear is brilliant. It’s the only bath bomb I’ve tried from Lush and is a real classic, I think this one will remain in my favouites for a long time!

GRAB YOURSELF AND YOUR FRIENDS A BUTTERBEAR – YOU WON’T REGRET IT! 😀

– Storm x