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Being Your Own Prince Or Princess Charming.

I have a confession to make.

I’ve been keeping super up to date with Love Island and I’m friggin loving it!

I love the whole Siannise and Luke dynamic – she’s the Princess and him her Prince Charming and it’s all super romantic and dreamy and idealistic.

It would be lovely if the world actually worked like that!

The truth is though, that there is no Prince for any girl out there. There isn’t even a Princess for any man out there – not in the fantasy sense at least. The reality is that as perfect as a man can try to be for his lady, and a lady be for his man, they will never, ever be quite that perfect because well, we’re human after all, and most of the time they will be a fairly far stretch away from those ideals.

I probably sound bitter and well, maybe I am a little. I used to be incredibly naive, believe in that sort of love, be ridiculously hopelessly romantic and idealistic. That was for the first 3 years of my “relationship” – I felt like I was floating, living in a dream bubble. I loved how he’d lift me up and spin me around, all the roses on Valentines day, the excitement he’d have when he’d talk to his friends about me. He could barely do any wrong.

But, he could. And did.

I just didn’t see those things quite as well as I saw the “love” – until he left me really quite suddenly!

We got back together a little after, but it was truly a lesson learnt. I genuinely used to cry from happiness when I’d see him, realising how insanely lucky I was to genuinely be living the life of my dreams, something to be envied. Now, it’s been a good couple of years since I cried from happiness! He and I have snuffed out my idealism quite a bit since then and I am far more realistic about everything now.

That need for a Prince Charming and for you to play the role of Princess, or that need for a Princess where you play the role of Prince Charming, is incredibly unhealthy. All of those Disney films and traditional gender roles are romanticised and fed to as being the ideal standard for our future partner for years and years growing up. But, boys and girls, you won’t ever find your Prince Charming or Princess in somebody else. Because our vision of that role is somebody perfect in our eyes, which absolutely cannot exist in a human being, because humans are fundamentally imperfect. More than that, everyone’s idea of perfect is unique to them – no two versions will match exactly. That’s not to say you won’t love or accept them as they are and see them as perfect in your own eyes, but regardless, they still will never 100% live up to your dream image of a partner – not for an entire lifetime with each other anyways! It is unfair to expect one human to fulfil every role of your desires perfectly – the perfect lover, perfect lifelong travel companion, the best chef, the best father/mother to your children, successful career man/woman, perfect housewife/husband/butler, the perfect personal shopper, perfect house cleaner, perfect personal entertainer, the best babysitter etc etc etc.

These expectations are not only unhealthy, but are entirely unrealistic. 

If you do truly want to “find” and experience that sense of fantasy for your lifetime, you’re going to have to find those roles within yourself.

Here’s what I mean.

You want to see the excitement on the face of the man of your dreams when he sees you in that brand new lingerie set on Valentines day that you carefully picked out?

Instead focus on buying what you genuinely feel beautiful in, regardless of what your partner may or not think, and treat yourself to a set of lingerie that makes you feel amazing, with the only expectations being that you look in the mirror and feel beautiful. You don’t need somebody else to think the same thing as you in order for you to believe it with all your heart. You don’t need a man to confirm that you look good, or sexy, or beautiful, or stunning, EVER. You just need to believe in the value of your own opinion, because you are unique and your opinions are unique to you – which is what makes you wonderful in the first place! How incredibly dull and pointless would the world be if we all thought identically to one another?

The other point is that, although I’m sure your partner would believe you look gorgeous in your new set of lingerie, he might not be the type of person to comment, or to act on that. Everybody is different and the main message here is that you can be your own Prince Charming. You want your man to be gobsmacked at you in your new lingerie set? Girl – YOU be gobsmacked at you in your new lingerie set! Look, you get to play the role of being the gorgeous Princess, AND you get to fulfil the role of the one that is amazed by how said Princess looks. How neat is that? Whoever said women wouldn’t rule the world someday?!

But really, men can do this too.

You want to come home to a daily cuppa and a “How was your day?” by your beautiful lady?

Instead, focus on providing for yourself what you genuinely want as your reward after a long day at work, regardless of what your partner may or may not provide, and treat yourself to a beverage made exactly how you like it and the wind-down activity of your choosing, with the only expectation being that you feel truly cared for when you come home. You don’t need somebody else to be on the same page as you in terms of your needs in order for you to deserve them. You don’t need a lady to make you feel that your efforts are valued. Again, you just need to believe in the value of your own opinion.

And again, I’m sure your partner does appreciate your hard work for the day, but it might not always be her first instinct to offer a drink or to ask about your day, because everybody is different, but you can play that role for yourself! You want your lady to show that she cares about your efforts for the day? You show yourself that you care about your efforts for the day! Getting to play the role of Prince Charming and the role of the one who takes care of Prince Charming is a very good position to be in.

It would be lovely if our partners would always be on the ball with fulfilling our expectations – the different things we feel we deserve from a partner. The truth is that nobody will ever be able to do that perfectly – not one person, unless they’re literally just following orders and aren’t really living life how they want to! It isn’t something worth getting down about though. Even if your partner’s unwillingness to provide what you want is a deal breaker, that still shouldn’t be as big of an issue as it has become for a lot of people.

Other humans do not exist purely to fill in the gaps in our lives that we aren’t willing to fill ourselves. They were born purposeless and create their own purpose throughout their life. Their only innate “purpose” should be to live their life however they wish to. A healthy relationship should comprise of two, fully developed, fully independent human beings, and anything they do for each other should be seen as additional, unnecessary treats on top of the treats we already provide for ourselves! The cherries on top of the cakes.

Of course, all of this is easier said than done. Self-development is very difficult, as is rewiring a brain that’s been conditioned a certain way for as long as you’ve lived. The main takeaway should be that self-love is crucial to living that fantasy, idealistic life, and relationships should be based not on what somebody else can do or provide for you, but on what you both genuinely want to provide for each. There’s a massive difference between the Scenarios A and B below:

Scenario A:
Person 1: Why did you disappoint me by not buying me something really beautiful for Valentines Day, like a beautiful necklace, when that’s what I expect and deserve?

Person 2: Okay, I’ll go out and get you what you want because you want it and I want to make you happy 🙂

Scenario B:
Person 1: I really want a beautiful necklace for Valentines day because I feel that will make me feel special and like a Princess, so I will go out and treat myself to a beautiful necklace!

Person 2: I love your new beautiful necklace, I got you some fancy chocolates for Valentines day that I thought looked really nice!

It’s all too easy to feel that in scenario A, the man is doing the right thing by making the lady happy, but although it is a kind gesture, it isn’t his responsibility to purchase items for another person simply because they want them, no matter what day of the year it is. It isn’t that the woman doesn’t deserve the item, but simply that it’s his choice to make his mind up about what he thinks would or would not make a suitable gift. He isn’t going to be thinking the same way as the lady, and his way of thinking isn’t wrong or less good. Sometimes we will find men who are on the same wavelength in these ways and who will on their own accord coincidently think to buy exactly what the lady was hoping for, or perhaps men who will ask the lady what she would like and who prefer to gift in this way, but most men will be thinking differently.

Communication really is key – you need to explicitly lay down each others expectations openly – even if you think you don’t have expectations, there are probably times you may become resentful or slightly disappointed by your partner – which is due to expectations. Having needs and wants are okay, as long as you are happy to and capable of providing those things for yourself in your life, and that your partner is genuinely happy to provide the expectations that are non – negotiable for you in your relationship dynamic.

If they’re not genuinely happy to provide those things, then you both are simply incompatible in that sort of a relationship. Have some flexibility!

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My Perfect Face Routine (In Photos)

The Initial ‘Before’ Photo:

 

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Step 1: Getting Rid Of Spots:

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Step 2: Brushing My Teeth:

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Step 3: Flossing My Teeth:

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Step 4: Using Mouthwash:

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Step 5: Exfoliating

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Step 6: Exfoliating lips:

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Step 7: Using A Mattifying Face Mask Where My Skin Is Oily:

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Step 8: Using A Moisturising Face Mask Where My Skin Is Dry:

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Step 9: Cleansing My Skin:

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Step 10: Using A Spot Treatment:

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Step 11: Getting Rid Of New Spots:

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Step 12: Brushing Teeth:

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Step 13: Using Mouthwash:

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Step 14: Cleansing My Skin:

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Step 15: Putting In Contact Lenses

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Step 16: Moisturising My Face:

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Step 17: Priming My Face:

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Step 18: Applying Foundation:

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Step 19: Applying Concealer:

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Step 20: Applying Powder:

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Step 21: Applying Brows:

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Step 22: Curling Lashes:

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Step 23: Applying Mascara:

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Step 24: Applying Lip balm:

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Step 25: Applying Lipstick:

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Step 26: Applying Fixing Spray:

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Comparing Before & After:

 

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My Perfect Hair Routine (In Photos)

The Initial ‘Before’ Photo:


Step 1: Brushing / Combing:

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Step 2: Shampooing:

Step 3: Conditioning:

Step 4: Air drying:

Step 5: Applying Hair Moisturiser:

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Step 6: Putting Hair Into Protective Hairstyle:

Step 7: Smoothing Over Hair Moisturiser:

Step 8: Cutting Bangs:

Step 9: Taking Out Hairstyle (Next Day):

Step 10: Hairspraying:

Comparing Before & After:

 

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Beginning Blogging Again…

Hey guys!

Okay, I’m not going to lie to any of you. I’ve been pretty down in the dumps recently which has caused me to not really feel like blogging anymore. That’s okay! It happens. It’s frustrating because I have SO many ideas, but just don’t have the energy or space in my mind to spend on writing blog posts right now. I think being a student and just navigating your way through adult life does that to all of us at some point – drains our ability to be creative.

Well, I do really want to begin blogging again. Definitely not as a regular thing or anything – I want to keep my blog how it has always been. Just something I write in when I want to write, and about whatever I want to write about! Essentially, this blog is like my own diary or personal notebook or something that I share with anybody who like to read what I have to write. This blog has always been and will always be ME, through and through.

That being said, although I do want to start blogging again, my inability to be creative is making it very difficult for me to come up with anything that I can realistically write and post about given my energy levels, so I did do a little cheeky Google search for “easy blog posts”, and “X Biggest ______ Mistakes People Make” was literally the first idea on the first link that came up.

I’m just being kind to myself! I need to be kind to myself if I’m ever going to find blogging easier than I do right now.

So, 10 seemed like a good number and well, “relationship” is a topic that I feel fairly well versed in given that I’ve been in a rollercoaster style one for 6 and a half years, so let’s do this!

I hope you find the post helpful!

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10 Biggest Relationship Mistakes People Make

Hey guys!

I’ve been in a long term relationship for a while now, so I thought I’d use my small bit of wisdom on the topic to help you all avoid or remedy the 10 biggest relationship mistakes that people make.

I hope it helps some of you out!


  1. They expect their partner, or a potential partner, to be what they are not.I’ve spent a MASSIVE chunk of my sort-of current relationship completely putting my partner up on a pedestal – thinking he was a prince and that I was his princess and that everything would turn out perfectly like a literal Disney movie. Well, that was very wrong. He has his flaws. He has A LOT of flaws in fact, and they aren’t going to ever change or go anywhere. They are a part of who he is, and aspects of him that I “put up with for now” are in reality things that I will have to put up with for as long as I am in a committed relationship with him.

    We have to be careful to avoid black and white thinking too though. He’s also not a terrible person! He is kind and sweet, and it is all too easy to demonise someone when you realise that they aren’t this idealised version of them that you’ve created in your mind.

    This mistake has cost me a whole lot of time, energy and joy. If there are parts of a person that you don’t like right now – whether that’s their hair style, the way they like to spend a lot of time by themselves or the fact that they really hate commitment, you have to realise that these things might genuinely never change, because maybe that person LIKES those things about themselves!

    Nobody is going to change something about themselves if they like or value or don’t have an issue with said thing. Not even for YOU! They are who they are because that is exactly who they want to be at that given time, and you have to respect them enough to truly believe that.

  2. They develop a case of “the grass is greener on the other side” syndrome. 

    When you’ve become so accustomed to the things like the home you live in, having a best friend who you live with, being able to travel because of the fact that they work, the fact that they make and bring you dinner everyday etc, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking “Well, maybe somebody else could provide / satisfy ______ that my current partner isn’t”.The truth is though that finding somebody you’re compatible with isn’t very easy. Yes, there are billions of people in the world, but that large number narrows very quickly when you take into consideration the fact that a lot of those people are already taken, a lot of those people won’t be your preferred sex/gender, many of them won’t be within a reasonable distance of your current location, many won’t be within your preferred age range – and that’s BEFORE weeding out the ones who you aren’t physically attracted to, the ones your personality doesn’t mesh well with and the ones who you just don’t enjoy the personality of. And then there’s being compatible in other ways – dietary, religious beliefs, your love languages.

    My point is, the grass often ISN’T greener on the other side. Yes, sometimes it is, but it often isn’t, and I think this pattern of thought is destructive and leads to being only half committed to your relationship because of the idea that there might be someone better for you out there.

  3. Being dishonest with each other and themselves. 

    I am a very very big advocate for 100% honesty in a relationship, and frequently express my feelings and opinions to my partner, and also do a lot of self-reflecting by myself.My partner on the other hand… Although it isn’t his intention, he doesn’t find it very easy to be 100% transparent and honest with himself or with me, which causes massive bouldering problems down the line that may have become almost impossible to resolve anymore because of how entangled the issue is with everything.

    It just is really really bad to not be 100% obvious with your partner. They can’t read minds and only know what you feel or think about something from you telling them that you think or feel that way! Delaying or avoiding communication with your partner just causes a lot of hurt down the road.

  4. Not focussing on yourself & self development enough when in a relationship. 

    I am SO guilty of this! I’ve spent the majority of my relationship so obsessed about the relationship itself and about things that my partner weren’t doing or were doing that were upsetting me, that I just sort of neglected to actually save enough energy to grow as a person much myself.That’s not to say I haven’t grown much in terms of my views or anything like that – I purely mean things like gaining new skills, making new friends, visiting family frequently, joining clubs, volunteering, getting jobs, learning to cook new recipes, learning new instruments etc…

    Fretting and obsessing over a relationship is extremely isolating, and you will GREATLY regret getting so wrapped up in it all. That’s not to say that enjoying the fact that you’re in a relationship, are in love etc is an issue. Enjoy it! Just make sure you keep the amount of time you’re thinking about your relationship to not the entire day – not even half the day! Try to limit your relationship stuff to maybe a MAXIMUM of 4 hours of your day, so you get AT LEAST a whole 75% to yourself, your friends or whatever else you want or have or should have in your life that ISN’T relationship related! Honestly, closer to 3 hours is probably better.

    What I mean by this is 3 hours of your THINKING TIME! You have 16 hours a day not just to DO things, but you also spend that time thinking – and it is that thinking that can become very very draining and obsessive.

    Another way this can become an issue is if you’re spending all of those 3 hours thinking about said person, without actually being present with them. That’s also very unhealthy and leads to a very warped and unreal view of the relationship because the majority of it is just fantasised and thought about in your head! Keep the thinking whilst NOT present with your partner to an hour or so a day. This is very difficult to control but it’s important enough to really give it a good try!

  5. Allowing your relationship to “peak” too early. 

    I think one of the biggest secrets to a successful, happy relationship is keeping a steady pace. Yes, you want it to be exciting at the start, but that doesn’t mean you want to be spending every moment together only to feel a bit down when 5 years later you realise your partner hardly ever chooses to spend their time with you at all!I think it’s best to be on an incline. You should always be growing together and have new, exciting ideas on the horizon. You shouldn’t be making really good and exciting steps forward (like spending a good amount of time together), only to then take those same, progressive steps back later down the line.
    Don’t get lazy! Your relationship should be worth MORE down the line, and therefore be worthy of MORE achievements together and MORE enjoyment when time is spent together, as opposed to less.

  6. Not learning about love languages. 

    It’s easy to feel hurt when your partner isn’t really showing they care about you in the same way that you show them that you care about them, but it shouldn’t be too hurtful. Maybe it comes less naturally for them to show you love in that way. Maybe they are showing you love in other ways that you find less meaningful, but that hold the most meaning to them.Partners should learn about each other’s love language and how they work right near the beginning of their relationship together to avoid hurt feelings down the line! It’s also easier to adapt your behaviours at the start of a relationship than it is to unlearn / learn new patterns of how you show love when you’ve been having the same patterns for years!

  7. They say they’ll do something, and then they don’t. 

    This could be something small, like “I’ll send that letter after work!”, or something big, like “I’ll be happy for us to get married in a year’s time!”The only thing that happens when you don’t follow through with what you say is that you end up damaging the trust your partner has in you. It may only seem like a small thing at the time, but little by little, you’re creating cracks in the foundation of your relationship.

    If you say you’ll do something, that you believe something, feel something, think something – make sure you really mean and follow through with those things. Don’t endlessly disappoint and hurt your partner. If you’re not 100% sure that you really do think or feel a certain way or that you will do said task, don’t voice those things at all! It’s far kinder to not say the things that you think your partner wants to hear, when you don’t really mean them, than it is to just not say anything at all. It will also keep their trust for you growing throughout the relationship, rather than declining!

    Also, being untrustworthy is quite frankly annoying for your partner and wastes their time. Be respectful toward them!

  8. They get into a relationship without working on mental health problems. 

    This is a difficult one, and I’m sure isn’t the most popular of opinions. This comes from my own experience. Neither me nor my partner are very mentally healthy, and would definitely have benefitted from working on our own mental health before getting into a relationship with each other.Having mental health issues warps your entire perspective of everything that’s going on in a relationship. Now, I know that a lot of mental health conditions can’t be fully “cured” or might take a very long time to improve, and I’m not saying that mentally ill people don’t deserve to be in a loving relationship.

    What I am saying is that if working on your mental health / them working on their mental health / both of you working on your mental health is something that you realistically could do before getting into a relationship, it’s something you probably should do. Because, once you’re in a relationship, it’s MUCH harder to find that sort of quality time to invest in improving your mental health.

  9. When they don’t appreciate how special their partner is.This is similar to some of the past mistakes in this list, although it isn’t quite the same as getting “the grass is greener on the other side” syndrome, and isn’t quite the same as getting lazy in the relationship. This mistake is directly related to what you see in your partner.

    Let’s put this another way. If you currently have a partner, and truly imagine them really enjoying being happy and in love in a relationship with somebody else, how does that make you feel?

    When you imagine those sorts of situations, the things you adore about your partner and find special about them and the things that make you feel so proud that they’re your partner, suddenly become much clearer. The same thing should happen when your partner imagines the scenario where you are in a very happy, loving, successful relationship with somebody else that adores everything about you.

    It’s important to realise that you chose your partner for a reason and you have stuck with them for a reason. They are special, unique, beautiful on the outside and inside, understand you, took care of you when nobody else did.

    Again, that’s not to say that this is the case for everyone, but in a lot of cases, I think people lose sight of the sparkling diamond that their partner is, and take advantage of how precious they are.

  10. When both members of the relationship give up the fight, and stop trying. 

    It can be very difficult to pick a relationship up when it feels really battered and damaged, when you’ve lost hope and faith and trust, when you no longer feel that child-like excitement about what comes next, when you’ve settled into the rut of just maintaining the status-quo.It is hard, and quite frankly, when you’re feeling so down about your relationship, it can feel pointless to get up and try again. Sometimes it just feels like a one-sided, losing battle.

    And you know what? It shouldn’t be that hard. Nobody is wrong in thinking “Perhaps it’s time to give up and call it a day” when a relationship gets to this point. You’re all right in thinking that it should be simpler than this.

    But the fact is, it doesn’t always go according to plan.

    Just because maintaining a health relationship would be simple in an ideal world, that doesn’t change the fact that in reality, keeping your current relationship healthy and happy at this moment in time is difficult.

    That doesn’t necessarily mean that your relationship is wrong. Maybe you were young when you got together – not really knowing what you’re doing can lead to the foundations of your relationship to have been laid poorly, causing ruts like this down the line.

    Or, maybe you and your partner are just quite different to each other, and think quite differently to each other. If you still think each other are special and if you still have a tiny spark of hope left, then this isn’t a reason to give up. Sure, you’ll have to work harder than other couples who just seem to “fit” perfectly together, but not meshing perfectly with your partner doesn’t mean that they aren’t the perfect partner for you.

    If you stop trying, the rut you’re in will only get deeper, darker, more oppressive. You have to bring some life and joy into your relationship. You HAVE to give your relationship the time it deserves. You need to spend time really thinking about how you can build this back up again, and you need to spend the time and energy to actually follow through with your ideas. Don’t give up!


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In Response To GwenInRealLife’s “LUSH COSMETICS: “Controversial” Changes” YouTube Video.

Hey guys!

Another rant here!

So, I just watched GwenInRealLife’s YouTube Video “LUSH COSMETICS: “Controversial “Changes” YouTube Video. I had so much to say that I decided to write a comment – only it ended up being really, really long, so I thought it would be much more appropriate to write in my blog!

So, here it is:


 

Okay, so I’m going to be super honest and be careful for what I wish for.

I genuinely and honestly wish that Lush was almost exactly how it was years ago. I’m talking about around 2015 when it was super chill but still super fun to visit your local Lush store to just try a few new fresh, exciting, pampering, luxury skin care products. That wasn’t even that long ago, but it really feels that way because of how much has changed since then.

In my local Lush store there used to be just a fairly small table with wooden crate baskets on with bath bombs, and another fairly small wooden table with crate baskets on it for the bubble bars and miscellaneous bath products like the cauldron bath melt thing. There was half a wall for the makeup, half a wall for the skin care, half a wall for the gift sets and half a wall for the hair care. The store was just 4 small walls – the other 2 walls being the entrance and the wall lined with a few cashiers. Besides this there were 2 more tables in the store – one with the fresh face masks on it, and one with the soaps on it, piled high. On the cashier counter was just a few little lip scrubs, lip balms and lip scrubs. THAT WAS IT.

And it was pretty close to perfection.

I never got the chance to try Yuzu and Cocoa shower cream. Little losses like that hurt my soul.

I hate all the new products they’re coming out with.

Okay, I don’t specifically hate them, but I hate that they’re releasing them.

Lush has become entirely overwhelming to me. Lush used to be a place where a lot of people with mental health problems could go to find some sort of sanctuary and peace and happiness and escape from the stress and crappiness they came across in life. Now Lush has become PART of my mental health problems! Seriously! My happy place has been turned into a money making factory. I still find some happiness in the company here and there, but I used to be excited by the feeling that I was slowly trying all of the products, and would have tried them all within a year or so of CASUALLY buying them if they hadn’t started chucking out so many products all the time like they do now. Now I know I’ll never try them all. I’ll never know what my favourite of each range is and IF I do, they’ll release new things in that range a month later or something.

I MISS THE OLD LUSH. I MISS IT SO MUCH.

The only things they could have done with experimenting more with back then was the makeup range. I remember how exciting it was when they released Outback Mate. It was like, wow, something new for the first time in a few months, and it was a GOOD THING. I liked it taking a few months for a handful of new permanent range products to be released.

I wish they would just be more decisive and EDIT their permanent line, and MAKE IT A PERMANENT LINE. i.e, DON’T MESS WITH IT. Don’t remove products that people LIKE, get rid of the ones people DON’T LIKE VERY MUCH. Don’t add new products constantly, just add a few new ones EVERY NOW AND THEN.

If you used to shop at Lush from around 2009-2016, you KNOW what I’m talking about. I miss it so much.

They need to get their shit together, maybe to a massive Kon Mari of their products. I literally feel like Lush is the equivalent to a hoarders messy stash right now. They just need to calm the heck down – I get that they’re a business and I get that they want people using their products because of how they have a much less negative effect on the environment, but sometimes more is less and I think they’ve taken it too far. They messed with a really, really good thing.

It isn’t even like they were doing bad business back then – they were doing really well! They just went sort of viral and yeah. I just hope they get the message and bring Lush back to its prior glory days.

It’s not that I think the innovating isn’t good sometimes – I think they’ve done really, really good things with the makeup range that 100% would have bettered the 2009-2015 stores (these naked highlighters, all the lipsticks). I also agree that them being more conscious of their affect on the environment is overall, a good thing, but I also wish they could implement what they’re doing in a better way. I liked all the shower gels being liquid (like they’re supposed to be), and think they could have a different system – maybe one where you have to bring your own bottle and have a pay by weight system or something. That way rather than making reusable packaging or no packaging at all, they’re actually utilising what people would otherwise throw away or attempt to recycle.

Please Lush, edit and simplify your range. CUSTOMERS LIKE AND WANT SIMPLE. I’d rather give up all the new products that I enjoy (the lipsticks, highlighters, the Don’t Look At Me Face mask etc) if it meant having a much smaller, much more reliable permanent range of products, and a lot lower volume of dropping temporary line products for different occasions. Lower the stress of your store. Please.

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The Start Of Revision

Hey guys!

This post is just one big ramble/rant about what my first step for revising for my final exams is going to be. Consider yourself warned!


 

As some of you may or may not know, I’m a student studying in her second year of a degree in Astrophysics.

I thought I’d come on here and write about how I plan to begin my revision for my end of year exams. I think sometimes taking the first step is the most difficult, so I want to make sure I have everything in order for when the time comes. Unfortunately, I won’t have much time to revise because the entirety of second year for me has been riddled with bad mental health spells and tons of coursework .

As an example, between the start of last Tuesday and the end of this Thursday we will have had 1 class test to revise for and 5 coursework deadlines (a class test in Optics along with four weeks of lecture summaries to hand in, a Differential Equations assignment to hand in, 10 hours of CV enhancement to complete along with an updated CV to hand in, a Nuclear Physics assignment along with a Quantum Mechanics assignment along with like 4 pieces of Python code to hand in and an observatory log book along with an observatory report to hand in).

So, as you can see, even within those pieces of coursework there are usually multiple components, so in that space of 9 days I will have completed 10 different components of coursework.

Which is difficult for most courses but let me tell you, Astrophysics is no joke.

Anyway, so I won’t have had any time to revise for the finals until I’ve handed in my last piece of coursework which likely won’t be until the deadline (Thursday).

I think the first step I’m going to take once I’m in my exam revision period is, before anything else, to give myself some self-care. I can hear some of you being all like “NO, DON’T WASTE YOUR TIME ON THAT WHEN YOU HAVE SO LITTLE TIME AS IT IS!”

Well I’m about to change your mind!

You see, with my crappy mental health and insane amounts of coursework, I haven’t even actually left the house since that class test last Tuesday – not even to go to my local supermarket (which is a 2 minute walk from my flat!) I haven’t been taking care of myself at all, and with my partner being in the same situation as me (not the best mental health and extremely busy with work) even the everyday things have really been swept to the side.

I will still be super busy with revision once I’ve finished with the coursework (as in, now I’m completing around 1.5ish percent of my overall grade in coursework per day, and it will be around the same  during the revision period in terms of what the final exams are worth vs the days I have to revise for them). However, I still really think this is the most important first step.

I just need to really quickly take a bath, y’know? I need to do the laundry. I need to tidy up. I need to take bags of clothes to the charity shop. I need to load the dishwasher. I need to leash train my kitten. I need to entertain my kitten. I need to create a revision plan. I need to take that VARK test and work out HOW I’m going to revise. I need to get my weight back down to what’s healthy for me. I need to stock the fridge with healthy food. I need to do a BIT of cleaning.

I don’t want to go nuts, but honestly, it really needs at least a bit of work because it’s like a mad house in here, and I have no idea how I could reasonably begin to revise without taking care of myself, my partner, my flat and my kitten in these ways first. I would just feel far too anxious and wouldn’t be able to leave the flat to go to the library to study anyway because I’d feel gross and wouldn’t want to leave the flat messy or leave my kitten needing attention, ugh.

It’s very stressful and really does need to be done, and I won’t be able to do it before then because I have 2 pieces of coursework to begin and complete within the next 2 days so I can’t really be thinking about revision before the 11th April, and only at that time onwards can I really revise…

So, hopefully you all agree with me now that this is the first thing I need to do once the revision period begins. I know logically it seems like the best thing to do would be to just fit in as much revision as possible considering how little time I have to study for these exams (one of my single semester modules contains 2 subjects (Quantum Mechanics and Nuclear Physics), and I only have 3 days to revise for each of those subjects), and I do see how this would ordinarily be the right thing to do. I just know that realistically, if I were to do that, I’d actually get less work done overall because I’d be super unfocussed.

I guess I could see that preparation as revision in itself? I mean, it isn’t REALLY, but then it sort of is because revision is technically anything that will bring your grade up in the exam right? All of this preparation will definitely ease my mind and make me far more comfortable which I think will definitely cause me to have a better grade in the exams!

I’ll just spend from whenever I give in my final piece of coursework until Friday for this preparation, so less than a day, which is enough time to make a real difference in creating a good, calm, happy and healthy brain environment for me to revise and not so much time that it actually does more bad than good. A good sweet spot.

So I have the first day of revision planned – I don’t really know what I’m going to be doing the day after but I guess that’s what the planning day is for.

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